Reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2021): I find it interesting and stimulating to watch videos of guys masturbating. Reader, Chopp34 +, writes (7 March 2021):
My boyfriend just told me that he liked to watch other men masturbate, is that right? I've caught him watching porn on TV with just a man masturbating.do straight men enjoy this?įancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! Sitemapĭo straight men enjoy watching other men masturbate? Is that right? All these advice columns can do is spark conversation.Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help! So, it’s really hard to make assumptions to draw comparisons. We don’t know the dimensions of this dude’s sexuality, what fluidity he may or have have not experienced, his mental health, whether he contends with some issues of hetero expectations, internalized phobias, gay shame, male/masculine insecurities, where he is in the gender, sexual, affection, emotional investment, commitment spectrum. The issue seems to be less about him wanking to gay porn and more to do with him seeming to have an “addiction” but also the wife’s insecurities as far as whether he’d rather be with a guy. The problem is we don’t know anything about these people beyond these basic details. Now, if you were strictly wanking off to lesbian porn 5-6 times a day then there might be something slightly more unusual there. Plenty of “gays” write hetero romantic/erotic fiction. The advice columnist tripped up and made the lady sound silly and decided to self-promote instead of telling her to try to have an earnest conversation with her husband about sexuality, the spectrum, potential internalized phobias and insecurities, past experiences and traumas, hetero pressures and expectations. The problem is that he’s wanking off 5-6 times a day and that she feels like he’d rather be a guy. The woman seems aware that her husband is in the “queer spectrum”. And the gender, romantic, sexual, affection, emotional investment, commitment spectrum is wide and varied. While it can have contradictions and fluidity. Sexuality is a combination of arousal, attraction, desire, passions, who you like pleasing, fetish, enjoyment and your overall sex drive. What you wank-off to often doesn’t tell the whole story of your “sexuality”. And yes, some dudes with overall homo leanings do wank-off to lesbian porn or to trans porn.
Your advice to her was very good, saying that she should “try to have an earnest conversation with her husband about sexuality, the spectrum, potential internalized phobias and insecurities, past experiences and traumas, hetero pressures and expectations.” Of course, to have that be successful would require that he be open to looking at those things with her, and that she has the understanding and knowledge to ask the right questions.Ī lot of self-described “lesbians” watch plenty of gay porn, often with their female partners. And we know that there’s a problem in the marriage because of his gay porn activities.
The bottom line here is that we don’t really know anything about this guy’s sexuality, apart from the fact that he’s not exclusively on either end of the spectrum. But that’s a subject for a different thread!) It blows my mind that people keep asking and saying things like “is Shawn Mendes gay?” “Nolan Gould should just come out already” (since of course a male doing a pole dance MUST be gay) etc.
(A similar complexity exists for almost all situations and issues in human life, though most people seem to want to turn everything into a binary. I don’t always agree with everything you say, but I’m glad you’re usually here to explain the complexity and fluidity of sexuality and romantic attraction.